Canadian Blog Awards, best feminist blog?

The Canadian Blog awards are looking for votes in many different point of view blogs.

Go HERE to see.

I have been nominated for the "best feminist blog", which totally confuses me because in my heart I am no feminist.
To put it totally bluntly, I am just me and I am very proud of that.


I just returned from a traditional funeral and decided to sit down and put my emotions in my blog. The reason I do this blog is to get my frustrations out. Many advocates, media and politicians ignore my choices because they believe I am an anti feminist who is bare foot and pregnant in the kitchen under my husbands thumb.

For the most part I could care less what people think, I am the type to run around the beach streaking people just for a laugh (adult only beach), and would not care what people thought of my stretch marks. In the case of the government treating me badly, I do care. The problem stands with our wallets and how much taxes we pay out for other choices and ours are cruelly criticized.

That is not fair.


During the funeral the pastor read a part of the Baptist bible claiming it is the will of Jesus for women to serve their husbands... wow I was thrown.

As I pondered this, I realized the woman they were burying this day did serve her husband, her children, her grandchildren, her friends, and her neighbors.
Margaret chose to do this out of free will and not out of some religious, political or feminist matter.
She loved her family and happily served them as they happily served her.

The wording the bible used did not please me, but the life Margaret led made me a very proud neighbor and friend of hers.

I will miss her dearly.


BTW, just to let you know I do not want a traditional funeral. I think the appropriate wording in this would be a more "liberal" funeral.
Maybe a big bonfire on the beach I grew up in and then a nice cremation ending with a swim in the Atlantic Ocean. That would give me great peace.
Oh yes, ACDC playing with a bit of Metallica would be a nice touch.



For those women who choose their life styles, accept my choices as I will happily accept yours.



For the Great Canadian Blog Awards, as you can see I am no feminist, I am just a mother, wife and women.

Below describes me best :)


Parental rights have always been a main focus of government agencies and political agendas but lately it seems to be swept under the rug.

Years ago women were expected to stay at home to care for children and the men dragged themselves to mindless jobs just to bring home the bacon. Well, today as you can see women are slaughtering the pigs and men are ironing as well as vice versa. The gender problem in most places has been sorted out, after years of burning bras and scolding husbands for not listening to them, women have finally started to prevail in their fight for equality. Good for them I say, because without them we’d be baking bread and icing cakes like slaves just because we naturally breed. Whooa did I just say that? No really, women and men like to bake or cook or clean personally I like to eat home baked goods. I just suck at baking because I have a heavy thumb when it comes to cooking. Luckily in my family my husband cooks and I well, I clean. Can you imaging loving to cook and eating your own food with someone else cleaning up your mess, we do it daily. No arguments just full bellies and a big kitchen to clean. Oh and just because we don’t fight over the cooking or cleaning doesn’t mean there isn’t something else to fight about.
Life today as you know it well it is pretty good except….

Try being a stay at home mom, without the reward of your children it would honestly suck! We all know it is because of the children that we do it.
These are my problems with being a stay at home mom and I thought I would share them with you just in case you never noticed them before or they got swept under the rug.

Parents who stay at home by choice or are financially forced to stay at home are..
*considered non-working dependents under the Canada Income tax act. Personally I’d rather be called a welfare bum than a non-working dependent.
*not considered financially stable by banks or credit companies. Literally the bank asks your spouse if you can be on the mortgage if you have no income. Don’t laugh I was in that situation fortunately my husband quickly replied without my wife we wouldn’t be here! My hubby is a good boy.
*penalized and have no tax breaks for being at home. Some say we do because our spouse can claim a spousal deduction but if we had a paid income then we would be able to claim a personal deduction. Since we do not have a paid income then we don’t have the personal deduction only our spouses can claim us for a spousal deduction which I might add is less than the personal deduction.
*pension-less. We cannot buy RRSP’s if we do not have an income.
* not employable, many jobs don’t see household duties as experience. Funny, domestic engineers aren’t as popular as they used to be.
* completely useless in the eyes of society!

Remember when women were expected to stay at home with the children and men dragged themselves out to mindless jobs to bring home the bacon? Well way back then they did have tax breaks and incentives to value the spouse at home but these days you are only valued if you use some sort of daycare setting or take in children in your own home. When and if you do that you will see tax breaks and subsidies coming from all 3 governments. Federal pays for the tax deductable and hands out money to the provinces to let them use it anyway they want to create new daycare spaces. The Provincial puts money towards educating childcare workers and builds buildings for these spaces also handing money down to the municipalities. The Municipal in turn decides how many spaces are needed for their local area and proves to the province that they are in need. Money, money, money all for bureaucracy but none for the at home parents.

I don’t know about you but I’m tired of being swept under the rug, its time to clean house!

So yes I complain but just remember for all the bitching I do the kids make it all worth while.

Sara Landriault
Stay at home mom of 3